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When my kids were young, taking classes at the local community college was a great way to keep me creating and away from all the distractions of the job and the household. It was also beneficial to my husband because it forced him to stop and take time with the kids and figure out how to get along without me for a few hours a week. I learned that they all really were capable, and nothing bad was going to happen if I wasn't the one feeding them, reading the kids stories or tucking them in a couple of nights a week. They're grown and have families of their own now. The memories are of their mom the artist; happy and painting, not whether the bathroom was clean and the laundry always done.
Now, I treat my studio time as a part time job that I love. I take it very seriously and consequently so do others. I'm in my studio 4-5 hours, 4-5 days per week and am more or less unavailable to anyone during that time. I can be and am flexable, but if I don't take this time seriously, why would anyone else? You may not be able to set aside 20 hours per week, but perhaps to set aside an hour or two a few days a week, on a regular basis would work for you. Hang a "do not disturb" sign on the door of your studio and have at it. No guilt because you love it either... You may just be setting an example to your family that it is as important for you to meet your needs as it is for you to meet their needs. Give your family an opportunity to step up and pitch in. Look hard at your list of priorities and see if there aren't some that can be moved down on the list. Throw something in the crockpot in the morning and forget it until dinnertime. Resist the urge to take the toilet brush out of your husband's hand and instead pat him on the back for pitching in. (If you were in my house this morning, that would be funny) Sheets that have been in the dryer overnight are still clean and you won't see the wrinkles once the quilt goes on. Tell your kids they can look at the dust on the furniture but please don't write in it.... (That fridge magnet is proudly displayed on my fridge. That, and the one that says, "Red meat isn't bad for you, fuzzy green meat is bad for you.) ...I digress. Good luck to you Kathaleen and I hope you can find some peace and balance.
Kathleen, your post takes me back to when my 4 boys were all little and home. People years later told me how frazzled I was. I had no idea I was coming off like that to people. I was a stay at home mom and I wasn't even trying to do creative art work at home. Life was just overwhelming. The kids were bathed and fed but my house was a disaster. All I was doing was trying to keep my head above water. I don't mean to discourage you but adding more things to your life may just add more stress. You may have to think of ways to lighten your load. Maybe think about hiring a cleaning lady who comes about once a week. And don't clean before she comes! Let her do it. I don't know if you have kids or not but if you do, they may have to help with some of the work load at home. Chores will let them do their part for the family.
Even in all that craziness, it is always theraputic to do a little something creative for yourself. Therapy helps a person get through all that craziness. I don't know what you will end up doing but as time passes and the kids get older you will have more time to yourelf. My kids are all gone now. None of them live here in our town. Most of the craziness is gone. But, I still always feel like I have too much to do. That is the story of life. Good luck.
IMHO...You can't get relaxed with 40 hours days, you have NO down time or so called "chilling with your creative thoughts", forget it. If your thinking of going into college again, then learn techniques, after that without the 40 hours....then relax your mind, take in what you have learned and get creative...make it your own. Create your own style unlike anyone elses.
Again, this is my way and it has served me well.